I’ve been meaning to write up a corollary to Roissy’s constitutional psychology post. As an extreme ecto who’s found a game of his own and learned to be a different kind of person over the years, I can probably offer some insight. The series was great, but he seemed to go into less detail on the ecto post than the others. Here are two major points in addition:
1. Scientifically, we can’t say that personality is genetically conditioned, as Roissy claims. We can, however, say that the psychological mechanisms we employ to engage our environment, which ultimately determine our personality, ARE genetically conditioned. This may not seem like much of a difference, but it is scientifically significant.
2. It is difficult to make the point that certain personalities proceed directly from certain body types. It is easy, however, to bridge the gap by saying that personality is HEAVILY Influenced by how we are treated by others, and that this treatment will inevitably be a function of how others perceive us, physically and mentally. Left to your own devices, you will fill the role that people cast you in, and humans will have a default impression of skinny guys, fat guys, and musclemen.
With that said, ectos are the smallest of the physical body types. I’m about 6′ tall and came out of high school weighing 120. I’ve put on about 45 pounds since then, but all experiences in youth are foundational to a certain point. Being smaller than the men around you means that others will feel more comfortable imposing on you and dismiss you as non-threatening more immediately. You will probably be subject to status challenges more often. People will hide hostility less than they would around more imposing figures. It is my theory that ectos are frequently more cerebral, brainy people because they retreat to the mind, away from the more hostile social climate around them. Much like the autistic.
Well, you can lift weights, get big, become an asshole, pick up some basic mammalian political awareness, and work up a good defense. But this actually only creates another problem. Because of their reference experience, skinny or jacked, former ectos are generally more aware of threats — more likely to see the world in terms of status challenges and hostility in the first place. They are less likely to view the world as a friendly place, where they can approach anyone and make a human bond. They will always have a comeback ready, always be expecting shittests. Regardless of their current size, most ectos have had the concept of a hostile outside world impressed upon them, and the only thing that’s changed is now they can fight back. But this outlook will not get you laid. In fact, it’s like anti-game. It’s like pouring a silica packet from a new pair of shoes in a girl’s vagina. Take a second to think about that.
One of the traits I have seen in every natural I’ve ever known is ease of interaction, or fluidity in their daily lives. Not only is their body language open and vulnerable because they’re not afraid of anything, their social behavior reflects the same ethos. “Why wouldn’t I hit on the cashier? People love me. Nobody’s going to blow me out. The world is fundamentally friendly.” This is the attitude of alphas, and the attitude that is hardest for ectos to assume. Sure, raising testosterone is good for you. But it also makes you a more aggressive person, which definitely doesn’t help in the girl game department.
So my advice? Get big, get fit, lift heavy weights, raise T-levels, whatever. But more importantly, warm up to the world. Learn how to smoke weed (Most ectos don’t know how — they are forced to confront their anxieties when they do it, and can’t handle that.) Spend some time in the South. Make platonic girlfriends to platonically flirt with. Hang out with black people. It works, and this is the kind of game that doesn’t just get you laid — it makes life easy. What else is there?