As I wrote last time, patriarchy is over. The rules have changed, for better or for worse. I believe we will all be happier in general because we will be forced to meet women halfway, and doing this requires us to operate at their level. No longer is the female reality considered frivolous or inferior, but we now have to operate under the assumption that their world is as important as ours.
This is good because women live in the real world. This is bad because the mode of thought that complexity demands – the rational and abstract thinking necessary to a society based on law, stratification, and organization – by nature suppresses experiential reality. To be a man is to engage a world of forms, where the economy is more real than the food in your hand and the state is more real than the home. All things are relevant only insofar as they represent abstract reality. Well, wealth is generated at the state level but joy is generated at the home level. This is the consolation prize you’ve been offered at the tail end of the civilized world, no reason not to get acquainted with it.
And get acquainted with it you can. The other good news is that women and men think differently, but these modes of thought can be familiarized and employed freely by both sexes. There is a very small portion of men — what we call alphas, or the 1%; members of the secret society — who comprehend female consciousness and move as freely through the female social world as women do themselves. This is the real world, and you can learn to participate in it.
So how do we begin engaging this real world? I have a number of posts in the works about just that. Their major theme can be dumbed down and distilled in the idea that the female mind employs the “right brain” more than any male, and that by learning to view the world through this lens you can come to understand how women view you and how to present yourself in a way that will preoccupy them. With this understanding, it is significantly easier to develop lasting relationships with attractive women, and leverage this to attain a role within your community that suits your desires.
Looking back, I was happiest in my social life when I was well-known within different communities of people, had a larger-than-life persona, and commanded a level of notoriety that grew from adroit social manipulation. In January, I will be moving back to the city after a year of relative isolation, and building myself back up to the level I was at a few years ago. I will still post here about the face of masculinity, though possibly in a different way.
My sense is that many, many game blogs focus on the steps they find necessary to attaining social status, yet I have seen very few of them paint an accurate picture of what it looks like when you are actually there (Shouts out to RSD.) Some of the connecting themes of my writing so far have been that status confers responsibility and that you cannot achieve power over others without gaining (and deserving) their trust. I have focused almost exclusively on the alpha identity as it appears in a family environment and I am becoming interested in how it appears in a community setting. I’m particularly interested in the overlap — it’s my contention that social complexity exists because men can extend direct power over groups of unrelated people and lead ever larger families.
Ultimately, I am curious whether the dichotomy of lover and provider as a personality type actually exists, and whether being a player now can prepare you for being a tribal warlord after the inevitable collapse of civilization and descent into the Hobbesian Road Warrior reenactment that will constitute the rest of your lives.
December is always the busiest month for my love life. More to come on how to think like a woman and act like a man. Thanks for reading.